February 15th, 2011 
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A Child-Like Mind Borderline Personality Disorder
Author: Dr. Anthony Centore
I have sometimes thought that my three-year-old daughter seems borderline. One minute she is saying, I love you Mommy, and the next minute she is shouting, Go away Mommy! One minute she laughs, the next she cries hysterically.
Adults with BPD often experience emotions much like my three-year-old child. As such, their behavior seems reasonable to them. The problem or pathology arises because these individuals are not childrenthey are adults. In terms of emotion regulation, interpersonal and some cognitive skills, they are at times functioning like children. Growth in each of these areas can occur independently, which results in an adult with the emotional composure of a two-year-old.
The life of those with BPD is a roller coasterchaotic, erratic, and distressed. They frequently feel as though they have no one to hold onto and the ride is getting faster and more treacherous. It involves twists and turns of venting anger, numbing pain, and engaging in self-deprecation. Often this leads to isolation, with ever more shame, anger, and pain.
Although their behaviors may seem game-like, it is not always so. Their behaviors are complex defenses that serve to protect them from what they may perceive as harm, rejection, and inevitable abandonment. These behaviors can be traced back to those of a distressed child, searching desperately for an anchor.
If I feel it, it must be true
Just the other day, my daughter said, I feel sad Mommy. It must be a sad day. In general, emotionally healthy people can distinguish between feelings and facts. If you fail a test (fact), you may feel inadequate (feeling). But this does not mean that you are inadequate. It may be just one failed test out of many successes.
Individuals with BPD have difficulty separating feelings from facts. In their economy, if they feel it, it is true. As such, when these individuals feel bad, their self-destructive behavior seems completely reasonable to them. These individuals repeatedly need to revise facts to fit their feelings. This is why their perceptions and beliefs may seem distorted and unstable.
Polarization
As my daughter cognitively matures, she is moving toward an understanding that just because I am angry does not mean I dont love her. However, for the most part at this stage of development, life remains polarized for her into good and bad. Like children, adults with BPD are unable to integrate situations and feelings that involve opposition. This leads to black-or-white thinking, overvaluation oscillating with devaluation, and a process known as splitting.
These cognitive mechanisms are efforts to protect themselves and make sense of the world. Life does not often come in black or white, but instead either black-and-white or many shades of gray. People are both kind and cruel, warm and cold, available and unavailable, depending on situations, needs and various factors. Because a person with BPD cannot cognize a world with complexity of this kind, it is necessary to separate people into black-or-white categories based on their most recent behaviors.
Projection/Blame
Recently my daughter blamed her oneyear- old brother when she tripped over her own toys. This was quite a feat, since her brother was sound asleep at the time! Projection and blaming are powerful weapons of denying ownership and avoiding responsibility. Projection is the process of attributing ones own unpleasant traits, behaviors, and/ or feelings to someone else. This primitive defense allows people with BPD to feel relief from self-condemnation. It also helps them avoid the fear of rejection and abandonment that would be stirred if they directly confronted their brokenness.
Core Issues
Emotion dysregulation is believed to be the core issue of BPD. Therefore, those with BPD manifest relational, behavioral and cognitive disturbances in an effort to achieve emotional modulation. They push others away for emotional protection; they inflict self-injury to numb emotional pain; they dissociate to avoid thinking about trauma; they create fantasies to ease the pain of reality.
Many of these people are intelligent and successful and seem to have everything going for them. However, inside they feel empty and incomplete. Their behaviorswhich may appear to be manipulation and game-playing to those who are targetedare usually done to self-soothe emotionally.
But in the midst of trying to achieve love and remain safe, individuals with BPD can inflict great pain, distress, grief, and anguish on those around them. Individuals with BPD can be frankly abusive. Parents, spouses, children, friends, and professionals involved with a person with this disorder are all vulnerable, not to mention the suffering individuals themselves.
As such, professionals who work with BPD patients or clients risk countertransference and burnout. Professionals and loved ones can spend years trying to understand the patients behaviors and validate feelings. However, this can prove exhausting and self-defeating. As with any dysfunctional behavior that involves abuse, the perpetratorno matter what the reason for his/her behavior must start taking responsibility.
So as a professional committed to working with these patients, it is necessary to bridge the gap between the adult person and the psyche of the disturbed child by not only validating, but also teaching self-capability enhancement. How do we do this?
Grace, Grace and More Grace
During the past ten years, advances in treatment of BPD have occurred in many areas, including biological underpinnings, psychotherapy and pharmacological treatment. One of the most innovative and effective psychotherapeutic approaches to BPD is Dialectical Behavior Therapy, developed by Dr. Marsha Linehan.1 This treatment addresses the extreme dichotomous thinking, for instance, by helping patients find a balance between overvaluing and condemning. It also focuses on developing skills, such as problem solving, selfsoothing, assertiveness, kindness, emotion regulation, and distress tolerance. These approaches, if integrated with Biblical principles, are quite effective.
Whatever treatment is used, Christian professionals know that the approach must offer Gods grace, kindness, and mercy. In an interview regarding his new book, Grace-Based Parenting,2 Dr. Tim Kimmel described grace as loving and honoring them when they are not loving back and loving your child when they dont deserve it. This attitude is necessary in working with BPD patients. In fact, such work can be thought of as grace-based therapy. As Christians, we are taught to love others (Matthew 22:39). Exemplifying Gods love is the only way to truly demonstrate validation, convey acceptance, and show understanding of these individuals.
However, like Christ, we do not accept unacceptable behaviors. Christ accepts and loves us as his children, but also wants us to become like him: go and sin no more (John 8:11). In treatment, then, in addition to validation, we must teach life skills and tools, not unlike what I am currently doing with my child. I teach her to self-soothe, how to deal with disappointment, and how to express and regulate her emotions. My prayer is that as she develops and individuates, she will mature into an independent and godly woman. That is the hope for patients suffering with BPD. One hopes that the gap between child and adult will narrow as they progress through treatment. Take help from telephone counselor.
Clearly, because of their profound skills deficits and intense emotional pain, working with BPD patients requires an emotional, physical and spiritual commitment from the therapist. It is, in a sense, raising and parenting children. What a way to honor God!
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TEENAGERS
Teenagers or Adolescence are the ages that are ending with the word “teen”. Teenagers are also the beginning of Puberty.
What is Puberty?
Puberty is the stage of becoming physiologically able of sexual reproduction, clear by genital maturation, development of lesser sex characteristics, and, in girls, the earliest menstruation.
(In this stage we can experience the developments and the changes in our body, one of it is Menstruation.)
What is Menstruation?
Menstruation it is the monthly discharging of blood of the girls for the womb. These sometimes begin between the ages of 10-16. When having these kinds of changes you can sometimes experience a dysmenorrhoea.
(Menstruation is so yikes! It is color red and it smells fishy because it’s a blood that’s coming out from the girls. It’s hard for us to have it because sometimes we experience dysmenorrhoea.)
We have developments in our life as a teenager like;
PHYSICAL DEVELOPMENT- The activity of the pituitary gland at this time results in the increased secretion of hormones, with widespread physiological effects.
(In this kind of development we experienced the changes in our physical appearance and also the changes inside our body like the Growth Hormones.)
What is a Growth Hormone?
Growth Hormone is necessary to human growth, which is produced by the anterior lobe of Pituitary Gland.
(If we are experiencing the Physical Development our Growth Hormone can create a fast growth spurt.)
INTELLECTUAL DEVELOPMENT- the beginning of the stage of formal operational thought, which may be characterized as thinking that, involves deductive logic.
(In this kind of development we learn how to understand difficult problems. We can think more.)
SOCIAL DEVELOPMENT- In this kind of development we learn how to join together to other people. We can go out with friends and enjoy.
EMOTIONAL DEVELOPMENT- adolescence is a period of emotional stress, resulting from the rapid and extensive physiological changes occurring at pubescence.
(In this development we are learning how to be an independent person and to relate to other people.)
SEXUAL DEVELOPMENT- In this kind of development we’ll have knowledge about Birth Control and Sexually Transmitted disease.
What is Birth Control and Sexually Transmitted Disease?
Sexually Transmitted Disease (STD) is an infectious disease that can be spread by sexual contact while Birth Control is the different methods to avoid pregnancy.
There are Eight Principal Sexually Transmitted Diseases:
•ACQUIRED IMMUNE DEFICIENCY SYNDROME (AIDS)
•SYPHILIS
•GONORRHOEA
•GENITAL HERPES
•CHANCROID (SOFT SORE)
•LYMPHOGRANULOMA VENEREUM
•TRICHOMONIASIS
•VAGINAL CANDIDIA
There are Eleven Birth Control Methods:
•NATURAL FAMILY PLANNING
•VASECTOMY
•TUBAL LIGATION
•INTRAUTERINE DEVICE (IUD)
•HORMONAL INJECTION
•HORMONAL IMPLANT
•BIRTH CONTROL PILL
•CERVICAL CAP
•DIAPHRAGM
•CONDOM
•SPERMICIDES
In using those Birth Control Methods there can be benefits and also problems.
As a teenager we have to be careful to those things that we’ll do and we should think twice before deciding.
“Teenage boys goaded by their surging hormones…run in packs like the primal horde. They have only a brief season of exhilarating liberty between control by their mothers and control by their wives.”
Camille Paglia (1947 – )
US academic and author
On the next page, we’ll discuss about the FACTORS THAT AFFECT TEENAGERS.
FACTORS THAT AFFECT TEENAGERS
There are many factors that affect teenagers like:
•PARENTS
•PEERS
•SCHOOL
•PERSONALITY
•ENVIRONMENT
•RELIGION
•TRAUMA
• CHOICE
Why Parents?
Parents are the mother, father, or legal guardian. They’re the first teacher of a child like me. Parents can also affect teenagers on how the parents grown their child. If the parents are so good in growing up a child then the child can also be good but if the parents are not there to support their child in times of problems and enjoyment then the child can have a rebel because he/she didn’t feel any love with his/her parents.
Why Peers?
Peers are the companion, fellow, or mate. They’re the friends of a teenager or what we called “barkada”. Peers can affect teenagers on how their friendship goes on. If your friends are good influence then your attitude or behavior can also be good but if your friends are bad influence then you can also be bad because you are influenced by your friends but then if you can find other friends that are better than them then go with them for you to have a happy life and for you to have a good path of life. In having peers you should choose the right one.
Why Education?
Education is an institution in which the children and teenagers are taught. These can also affect the teenagers on how the teachers, classmates, schoolmates and principal communicate to them. If the teachers, classmates, schoolmates and principal have a good relationship, then the teenagers or the students have a reason to enjoy in the school and to be active in school programs.
Why Personality?
Personality is the whole attitudes, interests, behavioral patterns, emotional responses, social roles, and other individual traits that endure over long periods of time. These can affect the teenagers on how to get along with other people.
Why Environment?
Environment is the natural world, within which people, animals, and plants live. These can affect the teenagers on what is the condition of their environment. If your environment is full of many bad people you can be influenced by them for you to be in style, but that is wrong. If you’re a good person and you know how to discipline your self you should be the model of others.
Why Religion?
Religion is the people’s beliefs and opinions concerning the existence, nature, and worship of God, a god, or gods, and divine involvement in the universe and human life. These can also affect the teenagers because we have different religions and beliefs, and we can’t just believe in one saying.
Why Trauma?
Trauma is any injury, whether physically or emotionally inflicted. “Trauma” has both a health and a psychiatric definition. Medically, “trauma” refers to a serious or critical physical injury, wound, or shock. This meaning is often associated with trauma medicine practiced in emergency rooms and represents a popular view of the term. In analysis, “trauma” has understood a different meaning and refers to an experience that is emotionally painful, distressful, or shocking, which often results in lasting mental and physical effects
Why Choice?
Choice is a decision to choose one thing, person, or course of action in preference to others. Choice can affect the teenagers on how they decide in a situation. We should be careful in deciding for us not to be in the wrong way of life but it’s not an embarrassment if we do the wrong choice because we can also learn from our mistakes.
Those factors that affect the life of a teenager have good and bad effects to us. Parents, Peers, Education, Environment, Religion, Trauma and Choice are a part of everyday life that is given by God so even though they give as many factors we should love it to have a peace on earth but if it’s bad for us we better start to adjust to a new life.
On the next page, we’ll discuss about the RECREATIONAL ACTIVITIES OF TEENAGERS.
RECREATIONAL ACTIVITIES OF A TEENAGER
Many teenagers are interested to many things. This is the time that the teenagers give importance to their new interests.
These are the:
•SPORTS
•RELAXING
•GOING TO OTHER PLACES
•DANCING
•WATCHING MOVIES
•LISTENING TO RADIO
•DREAMING
•TEXTING
•CHATTING
•SINGING
Sports- are used in physical or recreational activities. Some teenagers want outside games or the games that needs intellectual training. Like the Basketball for boys and Volleyball for the girls. In some schools especially the private ones are have the varsities in Basketball and Volleyball to take part in some sport contests.
Relaxing- is to spend time resting or doing things for pleasure, especially in contrast to or as a relief from the effort and stress of everyday life. Some teenagers just want to relax like; talking with friends because they’re more comfortable in doing it and it’s a good start because you’re open to each other. It’s happier when eating while joking with each other.
Going to other places- is a short pleasure trip usually lasting no more than a day. Some teenagers are happy in going to other places every vacation and they want to be far with their family but not to long.
Dancing- the activity of performing or taking part in a dance. Many teenagers have an interest in dancing because it is needed in parties. And dancing is also good for the body.
Watching Movies- Watching movie is one of the favorite activity of the teenagers because even though they don’t have money to go to the movie theater they can watch movie in their house.
Listening to Radio- The teenagers are learning to listen to radio while reading books and reviewing because it’s also relaxing to do but not all the teenagers are doing that because some can’t concentrate to the things that their doing. Listening to Radio is fun for us as a teenager because all the music you want is there.
Dreaming- an imaginary, very pleasant or perfect sphere of existence. This is the popular activity of a teenager especially when they’re alone because dreaming is free and all of us are doing that. It’s also good for us so we can have an idea on how our future will be going on.
Texting- Texting is one of the entertaining activities of some teenagers. Some are addicted in texting because in texting you can talk to your friends even in far places like chatting. The teenagers become more addicted in texting when some companies are giving promos especially the SMART UNLIMITED where in you can text many people with a load of P30 in 2 days. It’s fun but sometimes you’ll feel sleepy because some text mates are not very nice to talk to. Texting can also affect in our studies because once you’ve tried it you can’t stop doing it.
Chatting- Chatting is also one of the fun activities of teenagers. Teenagers are having many friends in chatting because all over the world can do this kind of activity. Chatting is also addicting for us as a teenager because when you start using it, maybe you can’t eat or do other things because many people is talking with you. It’s also exciting because there are some videos that are peculiar. But Chatting is also bad for us because it can also affect in our studies.
Singing- Singing is fun to do. It’s also one of the entertaining activities of teenagers. If you have talent in singing you’ll have fun in doing it. It’s also like dancing, needed in some parties but not too much.
“We have almost succeeded in leveling all human activities to the common denominator of securing the necessities of life and providing for their abundance.”
Hannah Arendt (1906 – 1975)
German, US philosopher and historian
On the next page, we’ll discuss about the PROBLEMS OF A TEENAGER.
PROBLEMS OF A TEENAGER
Teenager undergoes problems in Money, Education, Family, and Emotions.
Why Money?
Money is one of the problems of the teenagers. It’s hard for us to save money to buy our needs and wants because the money that is given from our parents is intended for our “baon”. Sometimes we can save money but it’s just a little because the foods that are sold from the stores are not to cheap and healthy for us.
Some teenagers are just going to school to have a “baon” but that “baon” is not wasted for their food, but their using it to other things like going to Mall instead in School, going to Internet shops and many more.
Why Education?
Education is also a problem of a teenager because of the grades and relationship with their teachers. But if someone is failed in an exam it’s also his/her fault because he/she didn’t give any effort to study. Education is important to us because if we are not well-educated we can’t find a good job.
Why Family?
Family is also one of the problems of a teenager because some parents are not supporting they’re child. So the teenagers who have those problems can’t feel the love of their family. Some teenagers have broken families because their parents broke up. And that problem can give them a big disaster.
Why Emotions?
Emotions are also a problem of a teenager because they don’t know how to face the new world or their new life. We have there the…
•PEER PRESSURE
•GENERATION GAP
•MOOD SWING
•TEMPER TANTRUMS
•SEX IN THE SOCIETY
•MAKING FRIENDS
•WORKING OUT VALUES
•SEEKING INDEPENDENCE
•DEPPRESSION
What is Peer Pressure?
Peer Pressure- is a social pressure on somebody to adopt a particular type of behavior, dress, or attitude in order to be accepted as part of a group.
What is Generation Gap?
Generation Gap- is the difference in attitudes, behavior, and interests between people of different generations, especially between parents and their children.
What is Mood Swing?
Mood Swing-is tending to change mood unpredictably from cheerful to bad-tempered.
What is Temper Tantrums?
Temper Tantrums- is an outburst of anger, especially a childish display of rage or bad temper.
What is Depression?
Depression- is a serious problem among high schools, and a state of unhappiness and hopelessness of a person.
Those problems of teenagers need an emotional support.
“To see teenagers sitting around trying to solve the problems of the world, I figured, all things considered, I’d rather be dancing.”
Joni Mitchell (1943 – )
Singer and a songwriter
On the next page, we’ll discuss about the TEENAGERS HIGH SCHOOL LIFE.
TEENAGERS HIGH SCHOOL LIFE
Teenagers High School Life can be fun.
It’s fun because you can have many friends and many occurrences. Teenagers in high school have many activities to do which are hard but very enjoyable like the practices that we did in some programs. Also in high school, you’ll meet your crushes that are so cute, beautiful, and handsome and etc. Having crushes is not bad because it’s normal for us as a person. Even teachers have crushes.
What is Crush?
Crush it is a temporary romantic infatuation.
In our grades, it’s good and it’s also fun to memorize all the pointers especially when the exam is so early, we’re so hurried in reviewing our exams but still the result seems good.
Teenagers High School Life can also be awful or terrible.
It can be awful when you’re grades, your teachers, classmates and schoolmates are not to close to you or your grades are not high enough to be presented with your parents.
It can also be awful when you don’t have any friends in the campus because you’ll feel isolated with them. But if you are one of the beautiful people, don’t make fun of the ones who aren’t. Just think the feelings of other people if someone said something like that to you just because they wanted their friends to laugh. Depression is a serious problem among high schools. What you say, may mean the thing that just happens to push them over the edge.
If you are not one of the people who are not “pretty” enough. Don’t worry about it, surround yourself with Friends and keep your head up. If you are shy, try to make at least 2 good friends. It’s better than standing by you at the pep rallies.
If you are outgoing, take notice to the shy people and talk to them, they will be grateful.
If you have been friends with someone since grade school, don’t abandon them once in high school. It’s OK to go different directions, but keep them close to your heart.
Grades matter! Work hard. Friends matter! Have fun.
WTF??? Get a hobby like knitting or decapitating chickens.
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TEENAGERS
Teenagers or Adolescence are the ages that are ending with the word “teen”. Teenagers are also the beginning of Puberty.
What is Puberty?
Puberty is the stage of becoming physiologically able of sexual reproduction, clear by genital maturation, development of lesser sex characteristics, and, in girls, the earliest menstruation.
(In this stage we can experience the developments and the changes in our body, one of it is Menstruation.)
What is Menstruation?
Menstruation it is the monthly discharging of blood of the girls for the womb. These sometimes begin between the ages of 10-16. When having these kinds of changes you can sometimes experience a dysmenorrhoea.
(Menstruation is so yikes! It is color red and it smells fishy because it’s a blood that’s coming out from the girls. It’s hard for us to have it because sometimes we experience dysmenorrhoea.)
We have developments in our life as a teenager like;
PHYSICAL DEVELOPMENT- The activity of the pituitary gland at this time results in the increased secretion of hormones, with widespread physiological effects.
(In this kind of development we experienced the changes in our physical appearance and also the changes inside our body like the Growth Hormones.)
What is a Growth Hormone?
Growth Hormone is necessary to human growth, which is produced by the anterior lobe of Pituitary Gland.
(If we are experiencing the Physical Development our Growth Hormone can create a fast growth spurt.)
INTELLECTUAL DEVELOPMENT- the beginning of the stage of formal operational thought, which may be characterized as thinking that, involves deductive logic.
(In this kind of development we learn how to understand difficult problems. We can think more.)
SOCIAL DEVELOPMENT- In this kind of development we learn how to join together to other people. We can go out with friends and enjoy.
EMOTIONAL DEVELOPMENT- adolescence is a period of emotional stress, resulting from the rapid and extensive physiological changes occurring at pubescence.
(In this development we are learning how to be an independent person and to relate to other people.)
SEXUAL DEVELOPMENT- In this kind of development we’ll have knowledge about Birth Control and Sexually Transmitted disease.
What is Birth Control and Sexually Transmitted Disease?
Sexually Transmitted Disease (STD) is an infectious disease that can be spread by sexual contact while Birth Control is the different methods to avoid pregnancy.
There are Eight Principal Sexually Transmitted Diseases:
•ACQUIRED IMMUNE DEFICIENCY SYNDROME (AIDS)
•SYPHILIS
•GONORRHOEA
•GENITAL HERPES
•CHANCROID (SOFT SORE)
•LYMPHOGRANULOMA VENEREUM
•TRICHOMONIASIS
•VAGINAL CANDIDIA
There are Eleven Birth Control Methods:
•NATURAL FAMILY PLANNING
•VASECTOMY
•TUBAL LIGATION
•INTRAUTERINE DEVICE (IUD)
•HORMONAL INJECTION
•HORMONAL IMPLANT
•BIRTH CONTROL PILL
•CERVICAL CAP
•DIAPHRAGM
•CONDOM
•SPERMICIDES
In using those Birth Control Methods there can be benefits and also problems.
As a teenager we have to be careful to those things that we’ll do and we should think twice before deciding.
“Teenage boys goaded by their surging hormones…run in packs like the primal horde. They have only a brief season of exhilarating liberty between control by their mothers and control by their wives.”
Camille Paglia (1947 – )
US academic and author
On the next page, we’ll discuss about the FACTORS THAT AFFECT TEENAGERS.
FACTORS THAT AFFECT TEENAGERS
There are many factors that affect teenagers like:
•PARENTS
•PEERS
•SCHOOL
•PERSONALITY
•ENVIRONMENT
•RELIGION
•TRAUMA
• CHOICE
Why Parents?
Parents are the mother, father, or legal guardian. They’re the first teacher of a child like me. Parents can also affect teenagers on how the parents grown their child. If the parents are so good in growing up a child then the child can also be good but if the parents are not there to support their child in times of problems and enjoyment then the child can have a rebel because he/she didn’t feel any love with his/her parents.
Why Peers?
Peers are the companion, fellow, or mate. They’re the friends of a teenager or what we called “barkada”. Peers can affect teenagers on how their friendship goes on. If your friends are good influence then your attitude or behavior can also be good but if your friends are bad influence then you can also be bad because you are influenced by your friends but then if you can find other friends that are better than them then go with them for you to have a happy life and for you to have a good path of life. In having peers you should choose the right one.
Why Education?
Education is an institution in which the children and teenagers are taught. These can also affect the teenagers on how the teachers, classmates, schoolmates and principal communicate to them. If the teachers, classmates, schoolmates and principal have a good relationship, then the teenagers or the students have a reason to enjoy in the school and to be active in school programs.
Why Personality?
Personality is the whole attitudes, interests, behavioral patterns, emotional responses, social roles, and other individual traits that endure over long periods of time. These can affect the teenagers on how to get along with other people.
Why Environment?
Environment is the natural world, within which people, animals, and plants live. These can affect the teenagers on what is the condition of their environment. If your environment is full of many bad people you can be influenced by them for you to be in style, but that is wrong. If you’re a good person and you know how to discipline your self you should be the model of others.
Why Religion?
Religion is the people’s beliefs and opinions concerning the existence, nature, and worship of God, a god, or gods, and divine involvement in the universe and human life. These can also affect the teenagers because we have different religions and beliefs, and we can’t just believe in one saying.
Why Trauma?
Trauma is any injury, whether physically or emotionally inflicted. “Trauma” has both a health and a psychiatric definition. Medically, “trauma” refers to a serious or critical physical injury, wound, or shock. This meaning is often associated with trauma medicine practiced in emergency rooms and represents a popular view of the term. In analysis, “trauma” has understood a different meaning and refers to an experience that is emotionally painful, distressful, or shocking, which often results in lasting mental and physical effects
Why Choice?
Choice is a decision to choose one thing, person, or course of action in preference to others. Choice can affect the teenagers on how they decide in a situation. We should be careful in deciding for us not to be in the wrong way of life but it’s not an embarrassment if we do the wrong choice because we can also learn from our mistakes.
Those factors that affect the life of a teenager have good and bad effects to us. Parents, Peers, Education, Environment, Religion, Trauma and Choice are a part of everyday life that is given by God so even though they give as many factors we should love it to have a peace on earth but if it’s bad for us we better start to adjust to a new life.
On the next page, we’ll discuss about the RECREATIONAL ACTIVITIES OF TEENAGERS.
RECREATIONAL ACTIVITIES OF A TEENAGER
Many teenagers are interested to many things. This is the time that the teenagers give importance to their new interests.
These are the:
•SPORTS
•RELAXING
•GOING TO OTHER PLACES
•DANCING
•WATCHING MOVIES
•LISTENING TO RADIO
•DREAMING
•TEXTING
•CHATTING
•SINGING
Sports- are used in physical or recreational activities. Some teenagers want outside games or the games that needs intellectual training. Like the Basketball for boys and Volleyball for the girls. In some schools especially the private ones are have the varsities in Basketball and Volleyball to take part in some sport contests.
Relaxing- is to spend time resting or doing things for pleasure, especially in contrast to or as a relief from the effort and stress of everyday life. Some teenagers just want to relax like; talking with friends because they’re more comfortable in doing it and it’s a good start because you’re open to each other. It’s happier when eating while joking with each other.
Going to other places- is a short pleasure trip usually lasting no more than a day. Some teenagers are happy in going to other places every vacation and they want to be far with their family but not to long.
Dancing- the activity of performing or taking part in a dance. Many teenagers have an interest in dancing because it is needed in parties. And dancing is also good for the body.
Watching Movies- Watching movie is one of the favorite activity of the teenagers because even though they don’t have money to go to the movie theater they can watch movie in their house.
Listening to Radio- The teenagers are learning to listen to radio while reading books and reviewing because it’s also relaxing to do but not all the teenagers are doing that because some can’t concentrate to the things that their doing. Listening to Radio is fun for us as a teenager because all the music you want is there.
Dreaming- an imaginary, very pleasant or perfect sphere of existence. This is the popular activity of a teenager especially when they’re alone because dreaming is free and all of us are doing that. It’s also good for us so we can have an idea on how our future will be going on.
Texting- Texting is one of the entertaining activities of some teenagers. Some are addicted in texting because in texting you can talk to your friends even in far places like chatting. The teenagers become more addicted in texting when some companies are giving promos especially the SMART UNLIMITED where in you can text many people with a load of P30 in 2 days. It’s fun but sometimes you’ll feel sleepy because some text mates are not very nice to talk to. Texting can also affect in our studies because once you’ve tried it you can’t stop doing it.
Chatting- Chatting is also one of the fun activities of teenagers. Teenagers are having many friends in chatting because all over the world can do this kind of activity. Chatting is also addicting for us as a teenager because when you start using it, maybe you can’t eat or do other things because many people is talking with you. It’s also exciting because there are some videos that are peculiar. But Chatting is also bad for us because it can also affect in our studies.
Singing- Singing is fun to do. It’s also one of the entertaining activities of teenagers. If you have talent in singing you’ll have fun in doing it. It’s also like dancing, needed in some parties but not too much.
“We have almost succeeded in leveling all human activities to the common denominator of securing the necessities of life and providing for their abundance.”
Hannah Arendt (1906 – 1975)
German, US philosopher and historian
On the next page, we’ll discuss about the PROBLEMS OF A TEENAGER.
PROBLEMS OF A TEENAGER
Teenager undergoes problems in Money, Education, Family, and Emotions.
Why Money?
Money is one of the problems of the teenagers. It’s hard for us to save money to buy our needs and wants because the money that is given from our parents is intended for our “baon”. Sometimes we can save money but it’s just a little because the foods that are sold from the stores are not to cheap and healthy for us.
Some teenagers are just going to school to have a “baon” but that “baon” is not wasted for their food, but their using it to other things like going to Mall instead in School, going to Internet shops and many more.
Why Education?
Education is also a problem of a teenager because of the grades and relationship with their teachers. But if someone is failed in an exam it’s also his/her fault because he/she didn’t give any effort to study. Education is important to us because if we are not well-educated we can’t find a good job.
Why Family?
Family is also one of the problems of a teenager because some parents are not supporting they’re child. So the teenagers who have those problems can’t feel the love of their family. Some teenagers have broken families because their parents broke up. And that problem can give them a big disaster.
Why Emotions?
Emotions are also a problem of a teenager because they don’t know how to face the new world or their new life. We have there the…
•PEER PRESSURE
•GENERATION GAP
•MOOD SWING
•TEMPER TANTRUMS
•SEX IN THE SOCIETY
•MAKING FRIENDS
•WORKING OUT VALUES
•SEEKING INDEPENDENCE
•DEPPRESSION
What is Peer Pressure?
Peer Pressure- is a social pressure on somebody to adopt a particular type of behavior, dress, or attitude in order to be accepted as part of a group.
What is Generation Gap?
Generation Gap- is the difference in attitudes, behavior, and interests between people of different generations, especially between parents and their children.
What is Mood Swing?
Mood Swing-is tending to change mood unpredictably from cheerful to bad-tempered.
What is Temper Tantrums?
Temper Tantrums- is an outburst of anger, especially a childish display of rage or bad temper.
What is Depression?
Depression- is a serious problem among high schools, and a state of unhappiness and hopelessness of a person.
Those problems of teenagers need an emotional support.
“To see teenagers sitting around trying to solve the problems of the world, I figured, all things considered, I’d rather be dancing.”
Joni Mitchell (1943 – )
Singer and a songwriter
On the next page, we’ll discuss about the TEENAGERS HIGH SCHOOL LIFE.
TEENAGERS HIGH SCHOOL LIFE
Teenagers High School Life can be fun.
It’s fun because you can have many friends and many occurrences. Teenagers in high school have many activities to do which are hard but very enjoyable like the practices that we did in some programs. Also in high school, you’ll meet your crushes that are so cute, beautiful, and handsome and etc. Having crushes is not bad because it’s normal for us as a person. Even teachers have crushes.
What is Crush?
Crush it is a temporary romantic infatuation.
In our grades, it’s good and it’s also fun to memorize all the pointers especially when the exam is so early, we’re so hurried in reviewing our exams but still the result seems good.
Teenagers High School Life can also be awful or terrible.
It can be awful when you’re grades, your teachers, classmates and schoolmates are not to close to you or your grades are not high enough to be presented with your parents.
It can also be awful when you don’t have any friends in the campus because you’ll feel isolated with them. But if you are one of the beautiful people, don’t make fun of the ones who aren’t. Just think the feelings of other people if someone said something like that to you just because they wanted their friends to laugh. Depression is a serious problem among high schools. What you say, may mean the thing that just happens to push them over the edge.
If you are not one of the people who are not “pretty” enough. Don’t worry about it, surround yourself with Friends and keep your head up. If you are shy, try to make at least 2 good friends. It’s better than standing by you at the pep rallies.
If you are outgoing, take notice to the shy people and talk to them, they will be grateful.
If you have been friends with someone since grade school, don’t abandon them once in high school. It’s OK to go different directions, but keep them close to your heart.
Grades matter! Work hard. Friends matter! Have fun.
well if u a health teacher don’t just give him these papers and expect them to read this lol TO Long make them play a game we play jeopardy like asking Q’s and we had to answer kinda fun