November 14th, 2011 
jvremec
How Accepting A Compliment Graciously Can Improve Your Confidence
When was the last time you received a compliment?
If you are now thinking of all the compliments you have received over the last few days and feeling great, well done!
Being able to give and accept compliments is a key part of building your confidence.
So really think about it again, think about a time when somebody complimented you, whether it be on your appearance or style (your hair looks great, I love the colour of your shirt), something you have done well (that report was great, well done, you played a mean game of tennis there!) or just simply on you (you are so kind, thanks for helping me out).
How do you respond to compliments?
There tends to be four responses:
- Minimise it: ‘Oh, it was nothing’, anyone could have done it’
- Argue with it: ‘No I don’t, I look terrible’, ‘The report had quite a lot of mistakes, and it rambled on’
- Feel awkward, uncomfortable and at a loss for words.
- Accept it graciously!
Which do you do? If it isn’t number four, you need to work on that………..
When someone pays you a compliment, they mean it. When you dismiss it, or disagree, you are basically saying they are either lying, or wrong. Not very nice! If you feel uncomfortable, they tend to get embarrassed too. Now I’m not trying to make you feel bad here, when your confidence is low, it is a natural reaction to avoid or ignore compliments.
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How can you improve your confidence with girls?
I get very shy, serious, and am not funny when girls talk me or around me,is there any tips or ways were i can improve my confidence with girls PLEASE HELP
Just look at them like your guy-friends. They are just like everyone else just a bit soft so be careful what you say because you don’t want to her their feelings. Just be yourself. Try to spend more time around girls even if you get nervous to improve your confidence. Try talking to them. Ask them about school work, homework…if you are in school…but make sure you control yourself and always look at them straight in the eyes so you can see if they are bored or not. If they are, talk about something else. Never make fun of the way they look. You need to relax when you are around them and you will see that you are very funny. Everyone has humor, you need to relax. If you want to talk my msn is roberthg303@hotmail.com
How do you gain or improve your confidence?
i feel like i have no confidence about anything nor any self esteem. I’m always nervous about things and i think im gunna screw up.
btw, i don’t need a breast augmentation. My boobs are large enough.
I do agree with the crusader. It does have to start with you from deep with in. It is almost as thou you have to set a fire off from inside of you about something you did. Like the saying goes if a tree fall and no one is there to hear it fall did it make a sound. I said all this to say you definitely need a support group. Whether it be family or friends. People who see your value/potential that will give you the praise to help that fire stay lit.
A great example of confidence and security is what happens between and baby and it’s mother(Darwin, Marx’s, Karl and Pavlov all prove this similar theory) when the mother cuddles and caress the child the child likes the response so they continue the behavior. So now that behavior is reinforced. THAT IS ALSO WHAT YOU WILL NEED REINFORCEMENT!!!!!!
How do you improve your confidence?
I really need to know how to improve my confidence because sometimes when i’m around new people, i’m just really un-confident.
Recognize your insecurities. What does that voice in the back of your mind say? What makes you ashamed of yourself? This could be anything from acne, to regrets, your weight, or friends at school. Whatever is making you feel unworthy, ashamed, or inferior, identify it, give it a name, and write it down.
Don’t view yourself as inferior to others. Don’t walk around with the subconscious mindset that others are better or more qualified than you, whether it’s related to work, school, or just socializing. To a certain degree, it’s good to walk around with a feeling of superiority. However, don’t take this too far, or you’ll come across as a jerk.
Talk about it with friends and loved ones. Wear it on your sleeve. Each day you should chip away at it; wear it down. There’s no quick fix. Get to the root of the problem; focus on it and understand that you need to resolve each issue before you can move on.
Remember that no one is perfect. Even the most confident people have insecurities. At some point in any of our lives, we may feel we lack something. That is reality. Learn that life is full of bumps down the road.
Identify your successes. Everyone is good at something, so discover the things at which you excel, then focus on your talents. Give yourself permission to take pride in them. Give yourself credit for your successes. Inferiority is a state of mind in which you’ve declared yourself a victim. Do not allow yourself to be victimized. Express yourself, whether it’s through art, music, writing, etc. Find something you enjoy. Everyone is born with talents and strengths. You can develop and excel in yours. If it’s difficult to name two or three things you have some ability in or just plain love to do, think about things others do that you would like to do too and take some lessons or join an enthusiasts club. When you’re following your passion, not only will it have a therapeutic effect, but you’ll feel unique and accomplished, all of which can help build your self confidence. Plus, adding a variety of interests to your life will not only make you more confident, but it will increase your chances of meeting compatible friends!
Be thankful for what you have. A lot of the times, at the root of insecurity and lack of confidence is a feeling of not having enough of something, whether it’s emotional validation, good luck, money, etc. By acknowledging and appreciating what you do have, you can combat the feeling of being incomplete and unsatisfied. Finding that inner peace will do wonders for your confidence.
Be Positive, even if you don’t feel positive. Avoid self-pity, or the pity and sympathy of others. Never allow others to make you feel inferior–they can only do so if you let them. If you continue to loathe and belittle yourself, others are going to do and believe likewise. Instead, speak positively about yourself, about your future, and about your progress. Do not be afraid to project your strengths and qualities to others. By doing so, you reinforce those ideas in your mind and encourage your growth in a positive direction.
Accept compliments gracefully. Don’t roll your eyes and say, “Yeah, right,” or shrug it off. Take it to heart and respond positively (“Thank you” and a smile works well).
Look in the mirror and smile. Studies surrounding what’s called the “facial feedback theory” suggest that the expressions on your face can actually encourage your brain to register certain emotions. So by looking in the mirror and smiling every day, you might feel happier with yourself and more confident in the long run.
Fake it. Along the same lines of smiling to make yourself feel happy, acting confident might actually make you believe it. Pretend you’re a completely confident version of you; go through the motions and see how you feel
Stick to your principles. It might be tough, but if you don’t have something you can believe in, you don’t have anything. If you don’t stand for something, you will fall for anything. No matter what’s happened in your life, you can always lay claim to the fact that from this day forward, you’ve followed your principles to the best of your ability.
Help others. When you know you’re kind to the people around you, and are making a positive difference in other people’s lives (even if it’s just being kinder to the person who serves you coffee in the morning), you’ll know that you are a positive force in the world–which will boost your self confidence. Go volunteer twice a month at an elementary school. Bake something for your neighbor for no reason. Confidence that you have earned is the most long-lasting.
Don’t Care What Other People Think You shouldn’t care about what other people will think or are going to think because what’s important is that you are fine with yourself and if you’re fine with yourself, others will be fine with you!
Remember If someone insults you and puts you down, just remember,that they are not perfect either.
How to improve your confidence with a group of strangers?
I was sent by a teacher to a classroom I don’t know because I had to find out where the teacher kept his books. So I went to the classroom and told him. I got tongue twisted and all that and basically I completely humiliated myself. Im one of the popular kids to! I usually speak to people 1 on 1 but with a group i get stage fright! It suks so bad and is holding my life down? How can I improve that?
Maybe it will work out since you’re with a class of new people. Use them has you gennie pig.
how do you improve your confidence in tennis?
okaii so maybe just maybe i might be negative once in a while like when someone is way better than me u know that they have a greater chance on beating me and ppl say that i shouldnt think that way ..BTW thats just one example so what are wayys to improve your confidence?
Hey, you’re the underdog. You have no pressure. You can hit freely and if you somehow get a good lead then the better person might tense up and hit weaker shots so you can attack them. If nobody thinks you’re going to win then don’t think about it. Who knows, the better one might play the worst match of their life and you might play the best of your life. It’s certainly happened to me a couple times, so just go out there and swing at the ball
Underdogs always have a good chance of winning, especially if the better one is playing a tournament that they were expected to win. Look at Murray, he was expected to win at least one Grand Slam this year and he ended up with none (not even a Final!)