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Help With Self Confidence
November 3rd, 2011 
jvremec
Posted in Professional Development 
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How can i get rid of my low self confidence and stop being so self cautious?
I have no self confidence at the moment. I am 23 and when i was at school i was really popular with loads of confidence. Things have rapidly changed and i cant pin point when. I tend to go all shy and blush when talking to certain folk. I just want things to be back to normal. Please help!!
what are you good at? whatever that or those things is or are, do that. accomplish something, especially if it has to do with dealing with other people. when I suffer from this, I submerge myself in busy-ness, help other people whenever possible, and do whatever else not to be alone. get engaged in intelligent conversations with others. sometimes I really have to push myself out of my head and my apartment to do this. but it does seem to work. volunteer for some good cause, even if it’s just a spring clean up by an environmental group on a particular segment of land, or go to a nursing home and ask who needs a visitor, and go visit them. meals on wheels always needs extra help. do something different and get yourself out of your same old head. it seems to work wonders.
How can I build my confidence and self esteem?
I’ve had a really bad problem with self confidence since my early teens. It’s shockingly bad. With my friends and family I’m quite bubbly and talkative but with people I don’t know or when I’m large groups of people I just go to pieces.
It holds me back and it’s ruining my life, would anyone recommend self help books or is there groups or classes I’d be able to join or something like that.
I know I might always be shy but to be much less so would make me happy.
Deal with your past. I know shyness can be inherited or is just a part of your personality, but life experience can make you shy. Do you remember not being shy? what caused you to withdraw into yourself? just a few things to start with and work from there. I am the same way and I took acting classes and getting up and doing silly, but fun exercises with other people would break anyone out of your comfort zone. There are online groups that can help if you don’t like the therapist route. http://www.dailystrength.org/ has an online group that may help.
Good luck!
How can I project my self confidence without being arrogant?
I’d like to improve the way people view me, and I’d heard that projecting your self confidence can help greatly. Unfortunately, every time I try, when I look back on the attempt, it seems like I’m being arrogant, or just not doing something right. Anyone have any ideas on how to improve my ability to project my self confidence, or a list of positive signs of someone with self confidence?
In response to jared, that would be considered more as an arrogant thing, in the sense that you aren’t respecting the girl at all.
I think there is way to project self confidence without being rude or arrogant. Here are some thoughts:
- Never be the one to chase after a girl. if you like her, ask her out and she doesn’t respond then move on to the next. If you call her and she doesn’t call back…don’t call back a couple more times. If she doesnt call back then don’t wait on her
- Smile often and say hello to people…try to be outgoing if you can. Provide complements to women– you look nice today, your hair is different–looks good, you are wearing a nice perfume, etc. Don’t over-do it, just try making a complement or two when you can
- Walk tall and not too fast…don’t strut though. Like a fighter pilot walking out to his plane before takeoff or something
- Hold doors open for women and smile at them, but then don’t gawk at them….just be polite and then pretend they are not nice looking, you are just being courteous
- There are a million girls out there and so don’t be in a hurry to find one…if you make yourself really available then women think you are desperate. You do that by taking your time and not jumping at every chance you have to call a girl or talk with her. Just take your time. Think about if you saw a Mustang Shelby Cobra at a dealership vs. a new Toyota Camry. yeah they are both nice cars, but man, that shelby is hard to come by…..so people want it more