September 5th, 2011 
jvremec
How To Get Self Confidence: Five Tips For Building Your Self Confidence
They say that self confidence is all in your mind. And to an extent that’s true. But when you’re sitting or standing there, a nervous quivering wreck, it can be hard to believe that you’re the one who’s creating your lack of confidence. Here are five tips to build your self confidence.
1. Stop slouching!
2. Speak up for yourself
The question “are you a man or are you a mouse?” is cliched. But it’s also true. If your instant reaction is to fade into the background then that in turn sends a signal to your self confidence that you should be meek and obedient, bowing to everyone else’s wants and needs. Speak up for yourself – in non-threatening situations at first – and you’ll find that it actually works. People probably won’t shout you down (unless whatever you said was completely dumb) and they may even start to respect your opinion. If you find this too much of a struggle in real life, start in a chat room or a forum and bask in the glory of other people actually respecting your opinion for once.
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What are some good ways to build your self-confidence?
It’s something I’ve been struggling with my entire life, and I never realized how much it’s holding me back. As far as my romantic life goes, my music(guitar and drum playing), work, the list goes on…
Any ideas and advice would be wonderful.
Thank you.
The key seems to be realizing that you are not the only one struggling with self confidence. Look at your examples: Most people are nervous when asking someone out, performing for an audience, or when being judged at work. Those are normal fears. Yet somehow everyone else seems to handle these things better? It may seem that way but appearances can be deceiving.
How you perceive yourself and what others see are not the same thing. You can be afraid and not show it. No one is a mind reader. People judge based on what they see, so regardless of how you feel if you act confident then others will see you that way. And when others see you as confident, suddenly you have a good reason to be. That’s a nice reinforcement loop.
There’s a more succinct version of this advice: fake it until you make it. Practice acting confident and soon enough you’ll convince yourself.
How do you build your self confidence?
Anything that you can think of helps.
By succeeding in goals….even small things you want to change….in fact most ultimate goals are reached by baby steps.Get a little outline together on paper perhaps of what you want to change in your life and have some realistic solutions…..what can you start on tomorrow,then what can you change in a month,in 6 months?
Also improve on your diet and physical activity and sleep/rest modes.You’ll be surprised how much these categories affect confidence.We don’t think right when these things are out of order.
Maybe even try a new “scene” if you’re already doing all the rest.Peace.
oh…and don’t be too hard on yourself…it does absolutely nothing but make things worse.Always think about/look at people that got it maybe much worse than you but carry on.Use your reserve strength,remember where you’re at and push on!
How can you build your self confidence?
I am confident around people that I know really well… but I find it hard to comunicate with people that I don’t know or are a lot older than me, and I see some people who are just brilliant and talking and always manage to find something to talk about were as I find that quite hard at times sometimes in fear of saying something stupid I supose. But this could have something to do with my self confidence how can I build it up and become confident in talking to all people?? thanks x
well just put your self out there and act like its no big deal and wat ever you do do NOT show people that you are scared or worried. every morning when you wake up tell your self…….”i am going to make the day great!” ” or i am going to do something new and interesting today” or simply”i AM who i want to be!”
Does playing football help to build your self confidence?
I have low self-confidence, and am playing football next year. Also, what physical condition do you need to be in to play middle school football? I am naturally strong but am afraid i wont be able to make it through practices.
yes.. success on the field will build your confidence. you need to be in good shape so try running hills
What’s a good self help book for building your confidence and self esteem?
How to accept yourself – Windy Dryden