November 9th, 2011 
jvremec
Feeling Powerless to Help a Friend With Adultery?
When infidelity threatens a marriage friends and f 00004000 amily may feel helpless and angry. It is hard to console the tearful person who has been betrayed. Angry outbursts erupt then they may be collapsing in despair. Children are left bewildered.
You can help if you:
2. meet immediate needs like child care and meal preparation.
3. don’t promise everything will be alright. It may not be.
4. don’t fuel the hurt or anger by adding your own evaluations. This couple may reconcile.
5. don’t gossip.
6. don’t lie for either party.
7. ask questions to help the thinking process.
8. accept that the stories will be repeated many times possibly with some changes as new information is learned.
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Does reading books on personal growth helps?
Does reading books on personal growth helps ? I have never gone through such a book in depth and followed it.
But I have just got many remarks from people . some people say that they help . some people say that they do not help or may be they just help initially for some time , not in long run.
If any of you have read some good personal growth book and have followed it in long run. Mention it and share your experience how it has helped you.
It depends on what your goals are. If you think that reading self-help books will make you an overall better person, you’re going to be disappointed. But if there is something specific in your life that you’re committed to changing, and you are willing to put the effort in, a book may be able to give you some ideas and techniques for doing so.
For example, if you want to reduce your debt and change how you manage your money, a self-help book can give you advice and suggestions on how to budget, consolidating debt, etc. But YOU have to commit to following the program if you want to see any changes.
If you’re looking for inner peace or something equally abstract, that’s much harder to measure. Again, I think a self-help book can be a guide, but you have to incorporate the ideas into your daily life – start doing yoga, meditating, counting your blessings, etc.
If you’re looking for a feel-good quick fix, a book might do that for you, but in the end it can’t change your life. It can be a helpful guide, but it’s not magic. Changing habits and old patterns is hard work.
Looking for information on self help, personal growth, inspirational, success and motivational books?
Can you tell me the best books of this type you have ever read and let me know what you found most helpful about each book and also anything that you felt the book didn’t do a good job of covering / teaching…or anything you wish the book would have included but didn’t?
Thank you to all who answered so far. My question is more of a research nature…I’ve read many books of this type & am curious to see how many of those titles pop up here. I am most interested in peoples specific feelings about what was most or least helpful in their opinion, or what topics they wish would have been either covered in those books, or more deeply elaborated on. Great book choices given so far…I have read some of these…Thanks again!
The trouble with self-help, motivational books is that they leave a void for the reader to gain momentum on it’s supposed track. It helps getting you motivated but it all goes away after that initial rush.
What worked for me so far is the “Release Technique” and “The Silva UltraMind System”. I also tried this website: stevepavlina.com.
The Release Technique was created by Lester Levenson and is more popularly known as the Sedona Method or marketed under The Abundance Course. It teaches the student to experience that energy/feeling and releasing them.
Silva UltraMind teaches its student about brain waves and the different states of mind, especially the Alpha brain wave.
Steve Pavlina has good articles on his website.
I have combined both the Release Technique and using it on an “Alpha” state of mind, even “Theta” and I found it very useful.
To elaborate, using the Silva Method, one is introduced to at least four brain waves…in the following order: Beta, Alpha, Theta and Delta.
The beta brainwave is where we’re at during normal waking hours, when we are most mentally active (and unfortunately when we are most susceptible to stress and mental fatigue). Scientists had measured this to be about 15 cycles on an EEG machine (electroencepalograph)–the machine which measures and monitors brain activity.
The next level below is the alpha brainwave. It’s between 5-15 cycles. This is the state when you’re relaxed….like listening to relaxing music, taking a shower, just before you fall to sleep/right after you wake up. This is when youre subsconscious mind is mostly receptive to suggestions and where you can “plant the good seeds and pull out the weeds in your garden.”
Theta is right below alpha and is characterized by your sleep-state. It’s between 3-4 cycles. Your dreaming at this point. You may experience lucid dreaming.
Delta is deep sleep. It’s between 1-3 cycles. You may not recall having dreamt at all.
Anyway, the Release Technique focuses on simply that–releasing your emotions that you’ve hold on too up to this point, which makes you feel lighter and better. It’s powerful in conjunction with the Silva Method.
These 2 methods together have helped me get out into orbit as opposed to other self-help books, which although well-intended, fails to deliver on their promises.
I hope this helps. Please remember this is just my experience which may differ from other people.
Any good books on personal growth?
anything besides these (which i’ve read):
1) How to win friends and influence people
2) Feel the fear and do ti anyway
3) Who moved my cheese
4) Goodbye to shy
5) The alchemist
6) 7 Habits of highly effective people
Anything, besides those?
I will name a couple that I will recommend. On your list I have read #3, 5, and 6. Very good reads.
The path of the human being-Zen teachings on the Bodhisattva way. (Merzel)
The Essential Dalai Lama
Zen Mind, Beginner’s Mind-(Suzuki)
The Power of Now- Eckhart Tolle
Let me know what you think.
Has any body read the book Psycology & personal growth by Arkoff & goud?
Whats your views on it? I’ve been recommended it, is it heavy reading, hard to get into?
If you are truly motivated, get it from the library and see what you think of it.
Not everyone comprehends or makes use of written material unless you can find a way to make it personal and use full….good luck….thanks
There are so many books out there on personal and spiritual growth.?
If you read these books, what ones stood out and made a real difference to your life.
On personal growth the best books I can recommend ever in life are the books by Napoleon Hill! The books by Napoleon Hill have no parallel in life… they are par excellence. On the path of personal development, I consider books by Napoleon Hill as the Bible of life.
Some of the famous topics include, “The Law of Success”, “Think and Grow Rich” and “Master Key to Riches”. I always carried three copies of law of success throughout my life… one by my bedside (for night reading), one in my personal handbag and one on my office table!
As I proceeded on the path of pure spirituality… in search of God, I came to know from the elders of the family that Bhagavad Gita of Hinduism played a pivotal role in human beings reaching the stage of enlightenment (kaivalya jnana). The doctrine of Bhagavad Gita was given to mankind by Lord Krishna in the battle of Mahabharata.
Containing 700 shlokas (verses)… Bhagavad Gita contains everything worth knowable on the spiritual path. The knower of Bhagavad Gita finally gains enlightenment and salvation (moksha). The difficult part is… Bhagavad Gita can never be understood literally. In present times… in absence of right preceptor… a knower of Bhagavad Gita… one needs referring various commentaries available in the market.
The gist of original Bhagavad Gita with English transliteration is available for mere $.40 (Rs 20/=) across most railway stations in India. It can also be procured directly from Gita press, Gorakhpur, India! Bhagavad Gita is the culmination of all things spiritual. One who indulges in Bhagavad Gita with sincerity, patience, persistence and perseverance wins the end.
In my quest of God, I never read Bhagavad Gita yet; Bhagavad Gita is like ABCD to me. The moment I realized God 1993 at 37 years of age… the entire wisdom of the sacred scriptures entered my head. It was as if I had dictated the contents of the sacred Bhagavad Gita in one of my previous manifestations. More on Bhagavad Gita- http://www.godrealized.com/bhagvadgita.html